“Your story only belongs to you for a moment to shape it - and serve it up to others to use as an instrument to inspire.” - Lisa Nichols
I no longer make it a secret that not so long ago, I was in a place where I gave "situations or individuals" so much power over me that I allowed it to affect my life in such a way that I became someone I did not recognize any more. I was sinking... I was suffocated, i couldn't breath... I woke up every morning thinking about it. I went to bed every night letting it consume me. As I interacted with others, made decisions, most importantly looked into my sons eyes and then stared back at my own in the mirror... I knew I had to regain control of all the aspects (thoughts, emotions, etc.) of my life in order to LIVE and in order to be the best version of me for my son.
...and so it was time for me to stop fighting all these emotions and give in.
I devoted my time to research and understand what I was going through and why we all allow certain situations and/or circumstances consume us in such a way that we cannot function to our best ability.
YOU GET TO CHOOSE
Here is a quick reminder of something you already know; you get to choose. It's as simple as that, you get to choose!
Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.
Some mental health warning signs are:
- Eating or sleeping too much or too little
- Pulling away from people and usual activities
- Having low or no energy
- Feeling numb or like nothing matters
- Having unexplained aches and pains
- Feeling helpless or hopeless
- Smoking, drinking, or using drugs more than usual
- Feeling unusually confused, forgetful, on edge, angry, upset, worried, or scared
- Yelling or fighting with family and friends
- Experiencing severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships
- Having persistent thoughts and memories you can't get out of your head
- Hearing voices or believing things that are not true
- Thinking of harming yourself or others
- Inability to perform daily tasks like taking care of your kids or getting to work or school
87% of us have gone through and/or have felt some if not ALL of the above mentioned mental health warning signs. We're all beautifully Fuk'd up and yet we're all the same in the idea that we've all gone through something that has kept us from being the best versions of ourselves.
Psychologists see a pattern in this success driven culture of busyness and the associated “connection disconnection” of an increasingly digitally remote world, and it’s triggering what they say is rapidly becoming a dire epidemic of loneliness. In the elderly, this epidemic of loneliness is known as the “hidden killer.”
With our daily use of email, texting, smart phones, professional and social media, we live in an age of instant global connectivity. We are more connected to one another today more than ever before in human history, yet somehow, we’re actually increasingly feeling more alone.
CONNECT TO THRIVE
Brene Brown, Professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, who specializes in social connection said:
“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irresistible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don't function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” We are profoundly social creatures. We may think we want money, power, fame, beauty, eternal youth or a new car, but at the root of most of these desires is a need to belong, to be accepted, to connect with others, to be loved. We pride ourselves on our independence, on pulling ourselves up by our own bootstraps, having a successful career and above all not depending on anyone. But, as psychologists from Maslow to Baumeister have repeatedly stressed, the truth of the matter is that a sense of social connection is one of our fundamental human needs.
It's time for you to choose YOU above all things. This might sound selfish however, i promise you, it's only way for you to be the best version of yourself for the loved ones around you and for you to be who you where made to be; EXTRAORDINARY.
STAY TUNED. MORE TO COME.
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